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By Sharmain GraingerIt isn’t rare for a mother and daughter to develop a bond that is strong enough for them to become best friends. It could, however, be deemed a rarity if they met each other after almost 47 years and develop that very bond.Glowing mother and daughter. Bernice Bobb (left) and her mother Carmen Bobb, share a hug.There may be quite a few cases like this, however one that gained the attention of this publication recently is that of Bernice Bobb-Carter and her mother Carmen Bobb.Bobb-Carter was born on December 5, 1967 to Randolph and Carmen Bobb. The latter mentioned is currently 71 years of old. The two were separated when Bobb-Carter was just over one-year old.It certainly wasn’t the very young Bernice’s choice to be taken away from her mother. Interestingly enough it wasn’t the older Bobb’s choosing either. However, this didn’t mean that persons weren’t told this was in fact the case.But Bobb-Carter revealed recently that she would learn many years later that it was really her father, Randolph Bobb, who caused her to be separated from her mother. He essentially left her in the care of strangers when she was just a tot. Her parents, she was told, had marital issues and could no longer stay together.It might have been a bitter separation, as reports suggest that her father had put measures in place to separate Bobb-Carter, not only from her mother, but from her biological family altogether.A BITTERSWEET TALEA very pensive Bobb-Carter recounted her story during a recent interview with me. It turned out to be a bittersweet tale.She was raised by an elder couple – Margaret Barry and Joseph Griffith, who lived in Canje, Berbice. Bobb-Carter recalled that as soon as she was old enough, the couple informed her of how she happened to be in their care.“They told me all they knew. By the time I was seven or eight they told me they were not my parents. They told me that my mom went away…that is what they said my father told them when he asked them to take care of me,” recalled Bobb-Carter.But she did get to see her father perhaps once or twice as a child, while in the care of her foster parents.Based on the little that they shared, Bobb-Carter knew that her father hailed from Essequibo, but had moved to Berbice because of his employment at Transport and Harbours. No one, however, seem to know anything about her mother.But Bobb-Carter was able to find out eventually that her mother was from Leguan and it was perhaps there that her father had met her. Her father was reportedly over two decades older than her mother and might have been forced to tie the knot.Soon after marriage they reportedly moved to Sheet Anchor, Berbice where Bobb-Carter was reportedly conceived.Reports suggest that Randolph Bobb was rather a ‘ladies man’ and soon lost the trust of his young wife, who simply could bear hearing about his constant infidelity.The way Bobb-Carter heard the story, though, is that her parents separated and soon after her father was ‘shacking up’ with another woman who was very pregnant with his child. But still no one was able to say what became of her mother.“What I heard is that my stepmother couldn’t handle taking care of me and her newborn child and so my father decided to just give me away to this old couple,” Bobb-Carter disclosed.The couple had about eight adult children and some of their grandchildren were around the same age with Bobb-Carter.While her father stayed in Berbice for a while, he later moved away and left without his young daughter. One of the few times he visited her, Bobb-Carter recalled that “he took me to spend a weekend with his (new) family and kept me for a week instead. At the time he was living at West Dem (Region Three) and I was so accustomed to the old couple that I started to cry for him to take me back home (Berbice),” recounted Bobb-Carter.He took her back to the couple in Berbice. That was however the last time she would see him.His disappearance,Cheap Jerseys From China, however, did not make raising the young Bobb-Carter a very easy task as, according to her, her father left no official documents; not even a birth certificate.Although she was allowed to attend primary school with a baptism certificate, she was not permitted to write Common Entrance and therefore was not placed at a secondary level school.She did,Cheap Jerseys, however, have a love for cooking and was enrolled in cooking classes by her foster parents so that she could improve her skills.Every now and then she was plagued by thoughts about her mother. But her loving foster parents were always enough to appease her desire to find out more.However, by the time she was of age and ready to tie the knot, the woes of not having a birth certificate would again surface. Her foster parents certainly did their best to help. The only information that her father had left behind was a note stating that her parents were Randolph Bobb, her mother was Lorain Bobb and that her name was Bernice Bobb.Attempts to seek the support of the General Post Office were not helpful. In fact there they were informed that the child Bernice Bobb, born to parents Randolph and Lorain Bobb, might have never been registered.She eventually got married and assumed the name Bernice Bobb-Carter and started to accept that her mother was probably dead by then.But after her foster parents and then her husband passed away, Bobb-Carter recalled that she had an earnest desire to find her own mother.Her efforts would however help her to find out that she had at least three brothers (sons of her father). But yet there was no information forthcoming about her mother.She would eventually make contact with a woman who claimed she was her father’s wife. It was then that she learned that her father had passed since 1983 – the same year she conceived her first child.She was, however, no closer to finding her mother. Bobb-Carter found comfort in her children and again tried to come to terms with the fact that she probably would never be able to find out what became of her mother.But little did she know that things were about to change.SISTERS WITH THE SAME MOTHERWith the growing advent of social media, even Bobb-Carter wanted to get involved. Moreover, her daughter decided to create a profile for Bobb-Carter. This would turn out to be the needed link to reunite her with her mother.As fate would have it, Bobb-Carter didn’t find her mother. It was in fact her sister (her mother’s daughter) who located her on Facebook.What Bobb-Carter didn’t know is that her mother had migrated to the United States and had a daughter by the name of Helen Taylor.The profile name is in fact what caught the attention of Taylor, who started to send several messages her way. Bobb-Carter’s children also saw the messages and started to enquire.Several questions later,Cheap Sports Jerseys, Taylor was able to confirm to Bobb-Carter that they were sisters and shared the same mother.In fact Bobb-Carter related that when her mother introduced herself for the first time as Carmen Bobb she was despondent. “I started thinking that this was the wrong person…my mother’s name was supposed to be Lorain.”But according to Bobb-Carter, it was her mother who revealed that her father deliberately didn’t give her caregivers her correct name. Bobb-Carter would only then learn that she was actually born Carol Bobb, but her father had given her name as Bernice and her mother’s name as Lorain.“I freeze when I realised that my mother was really alive and well and living in Georgia. I couldn’t believe it,Cheap NHL Jerseys, but I was praying all the time to find my mother…I was excited to know that after all these years I could meet my mother,” said Bobb-Carter as she recalled speaking on the telephone with her sister and mother for the first time.“It wasn’t so much about my sister…I was happy to know I had a sister, but was anxious to know I could finally get to meet my mom. I had so many questions because I couldn’t understand what kind of a mother would leave her child and never look back. I needed answers but I was very happy too,” admitted Bobb-Carter.They had many telephone conversations before meeting for the first time on February 16, 2016.“When I saw my mother for the first time when she got off the airplane, I just knew it was her right away, and she knew it was me. We hugged each other; we cried for nearly an hour at the airport,” she recalled.The two have been learning a great deal about each other since they met in February. Bobb-Carter has since met many relatives she didn’t know she had all along.Although she is a woman of few words Carmen Bobb confirmed that she too is extremely happy to be reunited with her daughter. She recalled that after she and her husband separated, she travelled to Linden where she stayed with her grandmother. Her estranged husband visited a few times,Cheap NBA Jerseys Authentic, but would only tell her that their daughter was sent abroad to be with relatives.“He didn’t tell me that she was right here in Guyana the whole time…I was sad for many years but now I am very happy,Supply Cheap Jerseys,” said a smiling Carmen Bobb, as she and her daughter shared a hug.And the plans to celebrate Mother’s Day today will be “big” according to Bobb-Carter. The two happily embraced each other and smiled unreservedly as they speculated that sharing the celebration this year will likely be the best they’ve ever had.
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